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What You Get If You Choose

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If you have been following this series on rest and rest deficits since January 3 inspired by Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith’s wonderful book, Sacred Rest, I hope you have gained some valuable insights to replenish every aspect of rest to live a full healthy life. There is much to be gained from it and you may want to pick up her book to munch on every bit of it that has not been shared over the past few weeks.

Perhaps as we begin a new year and consider what we want to be different, better, or more, it’s a good time to look at this aspect of our lives and why choosing these principles and values could add to us in more than one or two ways. Collectively, it means more than a lovely nap, your favorite steaming latte, or a weekend away (even though all of those are good).

“A well-rested life is a secret hidden in plain sight. It is a life at one with God, self, and others. It’s a life strengthened by winding down the expectations of others and charging up your expectations for yourself. You become in tune with what you need to be at your best. You become comfortable with your strengths and knowledgeable about your weaknesses. You then use that information to pour into the areas needing strengthening and reinforce areas already strong. You find your sweet spot in living, loving, being, doing, and resting.”

Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD
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I began this journey because I was aware that I wanted to find more ways to replenish and not be inundated (even in retirement) with things that can deplete me (some which I have no control over). The work of Dr. Dalton-Smith and other authors like John Eldredge in Get Your Life Back pointed toward those goals.

I looked again at what steals my rest that I often miss and was reminded again of God’s plan for us to rest that He models for us. He shows us that rest is not a luxury or something that births laziness. Instead, it equips us to give to those we care for in ways that bless and yet also shows care for ourselves as well.

“I am humbled and quieted in your presence.
 Like a contented child who rests on its mother’s lap,
    I’m your resting child and my soul is content in you.”

Psalm 131:2 (TPT)

John Eldredge reminded me…”Our souls accumulate stuff, too, pulling it in like a magnet. And so Augustine said we must empty ourselves of all that fills us so that we may be filled with what we are empty of.”

I was reminded of the benefit of beauty beyond the simple enjoyment of it.

“Beauty heals, partly because it proclaims that there is goodness in the world and that goodness prevails, or is preserved, or will somehow outlast all harm and darkness.

But most of all, beauty reassures. This is especially important to our search here for the grace beauty offers to our life with God. We need reassuring.

Beauty is such a gentle grace. Like God, it rarely shouts, rarely intrudes. Rather it woos, soothes, invites; it romances and caresses. We often sigh in the presence of beauty as it begins to minister to us – a good, deep soul-sigh.”

John Eldredge

At one of our favorite vacation spots in Alberta, Canada, that is surrounded by stunning mountain scenes in every direction, we were soothed and delighted by the basket of shiny apples at the front desk that we were invited to enjoy, vases of local flowers (some of the wild varieties) that were tucked in corner tables or graced landings on the stairs to the rooms. It never failed to remind us to consider what kinds of touches we could enjoy in our own home more often than we take time to consider.

Another vacation spot we enjoyed visiting had a room devoted to rest that was beyond anything we could have imagined.

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If we choose and practice the pursuit of rest, what does Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD, tell us we will receive as gifts?

  • The gift of boundaries
  • The gift of reflection
  • The gift of freedom
  • The gift of acceptance
  • The gift of exchange
  • The gift of permission
  • The gift of cessation
  • The gift of art
  • The gift of communication
  • The gift of productivity
  • The gift of choice
  • The gift of faith

There is a chapter on each of these gifts in Sacred Rest and each is worth savoring and allowing God to massage into our hearts, minds, and spirits. The enemy of our souls would seek to create endless obstacles to gaining these gifts and practicing rest, but God invites us to come, to taste and see, and to find rest for our souls.

“Your life and your enjoyment of it are the sum total of the choices you make. Good choices increase joy and blessings in your life, while poor choices increase worry, disease, and fear. It’s important to be mindful of the choices you make and to be careful not to abuse the gift of choice.

The power to choose begins with rest. Rest reminds you that you are not the creator of power, but the recipient. Rest is a restorer of the breach. It traverses the gap between our weakness and God’s enabling power. In rest, you welcome God into the process, and you admit you cannot choose better on your own. When you open yourself to God, you also open yourself to experiencing His spirit as helper, comforter, advocate, intercessor, counselor, strengthener, and standby.”

Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD

 “Are you weary, carrying a heavy burden? Come to me. I will refresh your life, for I am your oasis.”

Matthew 11:28 (TPT)
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Take A Good Dose of this Daily

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We come into this world with a curiosity and fascination, a moment-by-moment time of discovery. We delight in the nondescript rocks and pebbles along a path we walk. We are captivated by fireflies dancing on the lawn on a summer’s evening. We tune in to the sounds of a bird singing outside our window. We prefer the box the toy came in and all we imagine we can do with it more than the toy itself. We notice the little things, the important things, while our parents handle the big issues of life. But somewhere along the way, as we grow older, that part of our DNA as God’s created beings starts to erode. We start to leave less room for wonder and even when it pops into a moment, we don’t take long to savor it and get back to the busyness of life.

Watch any toddler for a few minutes and you will see not only wonder but also creativity as he or she goes through every moment of the day. The Bible says clearly in Genesis 1:27 that we were made in God’s image. We often think of his long list of attributes and may include the word Creator, but do we pause to consider how amazingly creative He is and that He placed a creative part of himself in each one of us. Watching a toddler gives evidence of that because it is free from all the qualifiers we put on that word creative along the way.

How often we may hear someone say they aren’t creative at all because they have narrowed what being creative can and does look like. You don’t need to paint the Sistine Chapel or compose a great concerto to be creative. But you do need to begin to discover all the creative pieces God has placed in you for your joy and rest. When we do, we will not fail to notice the beauty around us and that we have a canvass before us each day (if we choose) to create something different or new or at the very least, notice the beauty around us that never fails to refresh us.

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It is little wonder that no matter how old we may be, most of us still delight in a Disney movie and find smiles in our hearts and on our faces when Mary Poppins comes sailing through the sky or we go on an adventure in Narnia to meet Aslan, the beavers, Mr. Tumnus and more. Somehow even when we know it isn’t real, we love to pretend and go right along with the story and the main characters depicting it.

“It is the rest one finds when immersed in creative beauty.

Whether natural or man-made, all beauty is a creative work. Our soul yearns to be awed and captivated. When we are deprived these opportunities, depression and apathy arise within us. Creative rest revives our failing hearts. Life becomes more enjoyable when we soak in beauty and light.”

Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD

We can discover this rest in so many places if we take a moment to see it, hear it, breathe it in, and let it replenish us so our own creativity blossoms. I think of that every time I read a passage from Ken Gire’s beautiful book, The Divine Embrace:

“Imagine yourself in a ballroom. Imagine that the Emperor, the Lord Jesus himself, has tapped your shoulder. Hear his voice as he speaks your name and asks you to dance. It is not a dance you have done before. You’re uncertain about it, maybe a little fearful – hesitant to participate. But take a chance; step out onto the dance floor. As the Emperor draws near, look into his eyes. Place your palm in his. And follow his lead.”

Ken Gire

Every time I read Ken’s words, I find myself filled with delight and wonder at the scene he invites us to imagine. It moves us into a different level of intimacy he wants us to see. He invites us to imagine what Christ wants us (as his bride) to know of Him. It gives us a vivid example of what it means to allow Him to lead us when we consider being led on a dance floor. A bit later Ken writes:

“There are places he wants to take us on the dance floor, things he wants to show us, feelings he wants to share with us, words he wants to whisper in our ear.”

Ken Gire

What points us to evidence we have a deficit in creative rest as Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith wants us to assess?

  • Focusing on the needs of others and not considering your needs a priority
  • Talking yourself out of self-care as if you don’t deserve being cared for
  • Feeling you are being selfish whenever you consider doing something for yourself
  • Doing self-destructive things or making choices that sabotage your happiness
  • Rarely feeling your work is of value or that others appreciate your contribution
  • Finding it difficult to enjoy things in nature or in their natural state
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And guess what? We don’t get there by making it another task or a “to do” to get there, demanding some level of creative accomplishment. It doesn’t mean having to take a week or weekend away to replenish the deficit either (even though that can help for a short time). We need to discover moments of it on seemingly ordinary days doing what might seem like ordinary things.

“Creative rest is not about putting a demand on your creative ability; that’s not rest, that’s work. It is the opposite. It’s allowing white space in your life and giving room for your creativity to show up. Creative rest lets you focus on your basic need for wonder.”

Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD

I love watching people and seeing some of the special evidences on creativity bringing them joy and rest. If you’re looking for it, you will discover it as well. And as soon as I wrote that, images of some of my grandchildren came to mind. One of them is amazingly gifted in creating stunning beauty in her baked creations and finds relaxation and ease in it while it would be tedious and work for me and never achieve her results. Each of our six grandchildren (and their parents) has that piece of God-given creativity placed inside of them. What is often harder for us is to see it in ourselves, to allow the “white space” in our lives that Saundra Dalton-Smith writes about so we can discover it.

When I glance in the rearview mirror at my life, I see more numerous ways than I might guess that I have enjoyed or developed creativity. As I approached retirement, there was a blank canvass before me. I was not one of those who looked forward to hours playing golf or gardening (Nothing wrong with those, but they aren’t me.) and I wasn’t anticipating only sitting on our porch or deck with no idea of what to do with my time. But what happened was not on my radar screen.

Each stop on my timeline that shifted to something new was an opportunity God placed before me to take a seed He placed within me and watch Him show me how to help it grow and then see Him use it. And it happened again as I retired. That joy in reading and writing creatively suddenly gave an opportunity to attend a writer’s conference and the assignment was to develop a website and begin writing posts. I was aghast since I was clueless on how to do them and despite my sense of inadequacy and seeing my enjoyment of those as just that, God led me through the fear of “stepping out onto the dance floor” with Him.

In the process, I have been replenished every time He leads me to sit down here to write and share a glimpse of something He has used to impact my life, sharing pieces of my heart (and his). It is not work but joy that fills each new discovery to share here. Please give Him space in this season to find what He has waiting for you in creative rest.

“The amazing thing about creative rest is its ability to leave a lasting impression on us…moments of creative rest are hard to forget.”

Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD
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Are You in Overload?

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We can get very focused on things like taking care of our bodies where food and exercise are concerned, or at least try to work on those things. It’s that unrelenting reality that we need a lot of upkeep to stay as healthy as possible in this world. But there are many things we enjoy most of the time that we rarely think about how hard our senses are working every moment of every day until we lose them, or they shift in one way or another. We may think we are out of the woods and have no concern until we are older but there is no guarantee and some of us know that “older” arrives faster than we ever expected.

Stop for a moment and consider what your senses are telling you right now. Your eyes are reading on a screen of some sort, but there is more to take in. You have sounds around you. There may be the fan of a furnace, the voice of someone in the same room or near enough to hear, a tea pot about to whistle, a pet walking across the floor, or music playing in the background and even more. You may be munching on something or drinking a favorite beverage. Is it hot or cold, sweet, or salty, or somewhere in between? Our taste buds are always letting us know something about what we put in our mouths and our lips sense the surfaces of the cup or glass or even food we put in there. All these senses enrich our lives in ways we may not always take time to consider unless they stop, or we lose them or intently take time to notice the ones that have become white noise to us.

Sometimes what we need is a rest from the sensory overload to reawaken us to the sense we have lost awareness of such as the feel of the pillow under our head, the smooth soft touch of the flannel shirt we love to snuggle into, the gentleness of the breeze on our faces as we walk down the street, the brilliance of the colors in the world that is ours to work, live in, and enjoy.

“Every day your nervous system is under constant stimulation. Background music plays in offices, in elevators, and while your phone call is on hold. Television, computers, iPads, and smartphones add their artificial glow to your environment. The popcorn burning in the break room mingles with the latest perfume and fragrant hand lotion to overwhelm your nasal passages. Our bodies crave a reprieve. Periodic times of selective sensory deprivation deliberately remove external distractions and stimuli from your senses in order to reenergize them.”

Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD

We need some sensory rest for short periods of time since all the 5 senses are working to keep our brain informed of a myriad of things we need to know to keep us safe and warn us of things that could harm us in one way or another.

It’s not just eye strain and unplugging that we need in order to not impact the interplay and interconnection of body, mind, emotions and more.

“When you overload the senses, you overload the mind, and your body and emotions will respond adversely. Signs of a restless overstimulated body include racing thoughts, anger, palpitations, anxiety, disturbing dreams, and trouble falling asleep.”

Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD

Just like all the other areas of rest needed and the deficits that occur, when we don’t heed what our bodies and senses are telling us there will be trouble ahead even if you think you are able to ignore or avoid them now, they will show up eventually. Accidents happen and we also don’t know the “use by” date that came with our bodies and life.

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Each area of rest we have looked at in this series highlighting great information from Sacred Rest by Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD includes a list she indicates shows we have a deficit. Signs you may be dealing with a sensory rest deficit might include:

  • Sensitivity or an adverse reaction to loud sounds
  • Blurry vision and/or eye pressure, fatigue, or strain
  • Believing natural foods don’t have any flavor and craving processed foods
  • A dislike of being hugged or touched by others
  • Being desensitized to aromas others seem to smell easily
  • Inability to enjoy periodic sensory-rich experiences such as concerts or fireworks

How did we get there or why do we get there so often you may wonder?

“When our senses continue receiving incoming information without a break, the nervous system becomes too congested to process the information appropriately. The result is a decline in happiness, stifled creativity, mental restlessness, and blunted performance. Ultimately your overall health suffers because of inadequate sensory rest.”

Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD

So how do we get sensory rest? Some of the ideas are ones you may already use, but if you pause and consider what we’ve been saying here you will likely think of options I do not list. Here are a few:

  • Consider setting aside a time every day where you unplug from all electronics for a specific period of time. Be realistic and set small goals like 10 minutes or so as a start
  • Use the unplugged time to practice stretching and getting all the tension released from hunching over screens or maybe just enjoy being still and letting your head fall back to rest on the back of the couch or chair you like
  • Pay attention to how different kinds of sensory stimuli affect you and what brings you comfort or peace versus the symptoms we noted above
  • Get some fresh air, consider how dimming the harsh lights affects you, and eliminate constant noise
  • If touch is not something that negatively affects you, consider setting aside some money to indulge in a hand or foot massage, a pedicure or facial, or a total body massage that not only feels good but relaxes your body and helps the lymphatic system move toxins out of your system

For most of my professional life I worked indoors in a classroom or my counseling office. What I recognized I most needed to regain rest in all these areas was to plan vacations to weekends away that were not busy where I tried to see all the sights and kept on the go. Instead, my husband and I chose quieter places that refreshed us in every area. At the end of this post is a photo I took of one of those. It is located on the property of a hotel in Alberta, Canada we were able to enjoy for a number of vacations. The river made a beautiful sound lulling us to sleep from our window or balcony because there was no air-conditioning to blot out the sound of God’s sound machine. We drank in the fresh air, the sounds of the river, the quiet of the mountains and were replenished with the goodness of God’s creation – the very best medicine!

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Too Much or Too Little

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Getting together for coffee or tea or almost any kind of connection with friends is something most of us enjoy. Have you ever been in a season or noticed that sometimes there can be too much time doing those things in your calendar and other times not enough? Little wonder at that since relationships are a vital part of our lives at every season and we can be restless or dissatisfied when there is a lack of balance no matter what our personality or preference.

“Whether you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert, relationships are an important part of a well-rested life. Skip too many meals and your stomach will start growling. Just as the body hungers, your soul also hungers for connection. Loneliness is the soul’s plea to feed your need for social rest.”

Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD

One of the consequences of the worldwide pandemic has been more isolation and loneliness as well as a growing number of people experiencing depression and anxiety because of being cut off from usual times with family and friends. That was even worse for those who were ill and even in hospitals and unable to have those they love around them for comfort and encouragement. Every aspect of our relational selves experienced impact.

“You are made for three kinds of relationships: with others, with yourself, and with God.”

Dr. Gary Smalley
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We all know good relationships take work, intentionality, authenticity, good communication, and more. We know those relationships that refresh us and those that leave us feeling drained or empty after coffee. How reciprocal and authentic each person can be will have a great impact on how much we risk sharing of ourselves as well as invest in listening to the other person.

We will have many levels of relationship but if we are fortunate, there will be one or two persons we will never miss having a coffee date with or sharing what we are wrestling with. These are the ones who listen with their hearts, hold us accountable to our values and principles, pray for us without being asked, and know us so well they sense when something is going on even if we haven’t said. They pursue our hearts, not just the details of what we are doing or thinking about.

I think they are really special gifts from the Lord, and I sometimes wonder if those 3 disciples Jesus hung out with the most were like that with Him. Perhaps they heard differently even though they were all faltering at times and Peter often put his foot in his mouth.

These persons who are “heart listeners” are ones we should never take for granted; they are precious indeed.

Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith identifies 6 things that suggest we have social rest deficits:

1. Feeling alone in the world

2. Feeling detached from family and friends

3. Attraction to people who mistreat you or are abusive toward you

4. Difficulty in maintaining close relationships or making friends

5. Isolating yourself from others

6. Preferring online relationships over face-to-face relationships

“Social rest is when we find comfort in our relationships and social interactions. It is the ability to find solace in another.

Relationships are where we make deposits when we are full and withdraw from when we feel empty.”

Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD

Some of us have the mistaken idea what we need is a lot more time alone than we often do. Yes, we need time alone with the Lord and with ourselves, but if we are craving too much time alone perhaps it’s because the quality of our relationships is not replenishing and refreshing us when that is something we really need. We can be tempted to stop pursuing relationships if we are not as healthy or have been wounded in past relationships. Since relationships are hard work, we think we will just give up on them rather than risk learning what a safe relationship looks like and how to be that for someone else.

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Sometimes we look for relationships to nourish us without much thought about how we will also seek to nourish others as well. We must never forget that relationships are meant to be reciprocal and not just a means to fulfill our own needs.

“We often look down on fake people; however, we at times exhibit similar behavior. We become hypocritical in how we view authenticity in relationships, demanding it from others while refusing to fully participate ourselves. Social rest requires a willingness to deal with our relationship hurdles. It requires us to confront our reactions to the judgment of others, our feelings of rejection, and our fears about fitting in. In doing so, we secure relationships that give us grace to confront our doubts, speak our truth, and be authentic.

Social rest is about making space for those relationships that revive you. When you are with a friend you feel comfortable being around who makes you feel as if you could tell them anything, you’re experiencing social rest. These social rest relationships make you feel valued and take your concerns seriously.”

Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD

Relationships are both a gift and a choice. If we are without relationships of any kind, then perhaps we need to first seek the Lord about what has caused us to distance ourselves from others and not trust Him to discern those He would grant us to share our journeys. If we have failed to pay attention to those relationships we do have, this is a good time to seek the Lord about how to be a better friend, one who can provide social rest for others as well as receive it.

Research offers some significant findings about the importance of strong relationships:

“Studies show that people with strong relationships live longer, cope with stress better, and are overall healthier and happier. One study of over 300,000 people found a lack of strong relationships increased risk of premature death from all causes by 50 percent. This mortality risk is greater than that caused by obesity and similar to smoking almost a pack of cigarettes a day. Your social support system does more than just help you weather life’s storms; it lengthens the number of your days.” Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD

“Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom.”

Psalm 90:12 (NIV)
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Sanctuary

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As we moment-by-moment live out our faith and belief system, what feeds us so that our relationship with the Lord is fresh and refreshed? Anything and everything comes at us, and challenges us to hold steady in the storms around us. When we are worn and weary in the other areas I have written about (physically, mentally, & emotionally), our spiritual lives are impacted as well.

“You are made up of a body, a mind, and a spirit. Three unique parts make a whole. Whole is what your body thrives to become. Your body seeks to remember its disjointed relationship with your mind and spirit, and in doing so remember the sanctity of wholeness. It would stand to reason, however, if you can be whole, then you can also be the opposite of whole. You can be fragmented or broken…”

Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD

Most of us might be nodding our heads when we read Dr. Dalton-Smith’s words. We have felt or been fragmented and broken and come to our faith looking for healing and help to restore us. When we were far from God, we may have been less aware of why life wasn’t working for us as we hoped or needed but less aware of how sin separated us from Him and affected every part of our life and all relationships. But if or when we made the choice to come before Him and acknowledge that we couldn’t do life on our own and apart from Him, we started to seek greater wholeness and discovered there was more fragmentation and brokenness than we had been aware of.

We may have sought discipleship, a Bible study, or even counseling when all those things started to come to light – all good things, but there was more to discover if we were going to gain wholeness and repair the spiritual rest deficits we had (may still have).

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“The spirit experiences brokenness in the form of spiritual trauma, anger toward God, a lack of belief in God, and feeling a disconnectedness from God. When any one of these three (body, mind, spirit) experience brokenness, it affects the function of the other areas. Spiritual rest is where the broken places mend. Rest holds up the fragments, naked and unashamed before God. Rest acknowledges the disconnection and draws near. Your faith and relationship with God affect your ability to feel well rested.”

Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD

So, what does Dr. Smith list as evidence of a spiritual rest deficit?

  • Feeling decreased satisfaction and sense of accomplishment
  • Feeling helpless, hopeless, trapped, or defeated
  • Feeling like life is a total waste of energy and having no motivation
  • Feeling distant from God
  • Experiencing suicidal thoughts and depression
  • Feeling numb and apathetic

We get to these places for more than one or two reasons, some outside of our control, and some because we want what we want when we want it. Ugh!

“Over time throughout our lives, the Self stakes out its own territory within us to assure getting its own way, ordering our world to its likings. It has imbedded assumptions and privileges in our psyche; there is a momentum to its desires, motives, and presence in us.”

John Eldredge

Even as believers those things can be there by how we believe every aspect of our faith experience should go. We may be consistently doing all the things we have heard we are to do and think we should do and yet there is very little intimacy with the Lord developing along the way. We may go through prayer requests and lists in a rote manner, having a one-way conversation with the Lord without ever pausing and sitting in his presence listening to what He might want us to see or hear. Sometimes it means just sitting in his presence and letting Him enfold us while we say nothing. It also means not simply going through a Bible study or Bible reading program but meditating on what we read. It’s less about what we know and more about what is engrafted in us and available to apply moment by moment.

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One of the things that revolutionized my level of intimacy with the Lord was when I read a book by Sandra Wilson in 1999 entitled Into Abba’s Arms (Finding the Acceptance You’ve Always Wanted). The author shared about times she spent with the Lord, and it was as if she were journaling a letter to Him and then pausing to listen for whether He gave her a sense of a response and writing that down in a different colored ink to see if it stood up to a biblical context. She wrote about how those times began to fill “a hole in her soul” as she came to recognize Christ’s desire for us to move closer to Him.

We have received so many faulty messages about ourselves and Him that we can miss that truth even though the Bible makes clear his desire for a close personal relationship with Him where we are wholly authentic without any fear of rejection or loss of his love for us.

“God wants us close to him even more than we want to be close to him! How do I know? Because he plants a part of himself, the Holy Spirit, in each of his beloved children. God’s Spirit acts, in part, like a homing device, sometimes beeping softly, other times shrieking deafeningly in our hearts to direct us back to where we belong – to God’s eternal embrace.”

Sandra Wilson

I still recall an afternoon where I was sitting in a women’s conference in Chicago when the speaker suggested we take time in silence before the Lord to hear Him and even ask Him what He thought of us or wanted us to hear from Him. It felt like a risky thing to do given that I was cued in on my weaknesses and I was sure He knew many more I had not even recognized. But what I discovered was that He wanted to remind me of his love for me, his grace and mercy for all those weaknesses and failures even after coming to accept Him.

“God is much easier to get to know when you take religion out of the equation. As much as He would love for all of us to be holy, His first request is simply to love Him. Love is not religious; love is relational. Do you remember what it was like when you were trying to get to know your lover? The long hours of talking into the night and the endless love notes all seemed as natural as humidity in Alabama.”

Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD

This is the relationship that moves us into spiritual rest and mends the brokenness and fragmentation that erodes our spiritual selves. This is the sanctuary that can restore us if we will lay aside what pulls us into other things and practice being in his presence. It’s then we will discover He has been waiting in that place for us all along.

“Sanctuary is where we lay down our fight and rest. In the process, we find our way back home to a relationship with God.”

Saundra Dalton-Smith, MD
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