“I love you,” he said. And the first time he said it, I was so surprised. I had never seen myself as very lovable to anyone, so it was hard for me to believe that he told me this as we said goodnight at the dorm on the college campus where we met.
This man of such character and fewer words than many, said those same words to me this morning when he woke me up – “I love you.” I heard them before we went to sleep, and I could not count the number of times he has said them in more than 55 years of marriage and 57 years of knowing each other.
But he didn’t stop with the words. That first fall on campus he celebrated my nineteenth birthday by taking me to a play and sending a dozen red roses to me at my dorm. His acts of kindness and service would make an extremely long list, but he never stops saying the words that impacted me more than he could have guessed that first time.
Despite growing up in a Christian home and being in church throughout my years of growing up there, those words and their meaning somehow didn’t sink in or perhaps were not said very often to me (the one whose love languages are words of affirmation and quality time). There were evidences of my parents care for me, but perhaps what didn’t allow them to stick was that my Christian experience seemed more focused on information, behavior, performance, and obedience than a love relationship with the Lord.
You see, I don’t think hearing those words from anyone creates quite as much certainty as when we hear the Lord speak them to our heart and discover He wants a relationship with us.
Too many believers somehow miss that. It shows up in their prayer time when the words can sound like they are speaking to a distant being rather than a tender Father who longs to hear our hearts and share his with us as well.
Clearly God’s Word speaks of his love from Genesis to Revelation, but even then, we can miss it on a personal relational level. That is even truer if we don’t see the many other ways He speaks.
“Throughout Scripture God speaks through kings and queens, princes and prophets, poets and pilgrims. He speaks through weather patterns, barnyard animals, and even the stars in the sky. God is not only creative, but he is persistent in getting our attention and communicating with us.” Margaret Feinberg in The Sacred Echo
All of that is so true and the list can be even longer than Margaret lists in the quote, but why can those words “I love you” seem to be missed by so many. If they are not missed, too often they slip out of our attention as we get caught up “in the affairs of life” and all of the doing.
Perhaps those words are so powerful that the enemy of our souls would use anything in his arsenal to muffle them, distort them, or block them from our awareness. I think he knows that IF we really hear them and BELIEVE them, he will have a much harder time trying to rob the Lord of us.
“Why use sixty-six books and thousands of years of history to say three simple words? Because “I love you,” is not just a piece of information or one-time revelation but an invitation to transformation.” Margaret Feinberg in The Sacred Echo
It’s true that He loved us so much that He chose to come to earth and die for us on a brutal cross to demonstrate those words missed for so many years before through all the laws and sacrifices. He did it not only to save us, but because He wanted an unbroken relationship with us that was lost in Eden through the power of sin.
Our studies of the Bible are excellent and needed to learn more about Him, but too often we see these only as sources of information.
Information is good, but relationship is transformative.
All these ways to point to Him are not meant to be bytes of information to add to a hard drive, but an invitation to experience God’s love on a personal, relational level each moment of each day. He doesn’t want us to just know about, read about his love. He wants us to experience it even as my dear husband reminds me in numerous ways each day of our life together.
I experience God saying “I love you” when I sense it in a whisper as I sit after time in the Scripture or prayer. I experience it when He gently convicts me of an attitude or choice that does not reflect Him. Love includes correction because He wants the best for us.
When we read Scripture, we are reading stories, the grandest of stories, but our story is unfolding now in real time and experience. He wants us to experience/know intimate relationship and love that is no less personal than when my husband says those words – “I love you!”
Nothing is more powerful than God’s love for us. Little wonder that too often humankind is deceived and miss or doubt it.
No matter where you are or what is happening in your life today, the Lord wants you to hear those words, “I love you.”
23 thoughts on “He Said It Again”
oh this is a beautiful essay! Yes, I always need the reminder of His love for me. I love the precious story of you and your husband woven in as well, congratulations on 55 years married! That is a gem these days. I so hope my own 21 year marriage makes it that long by God’s grace. I know it takes receiving His love to be able to receive his love for me.
so glad i found you from crystalstorms.me link up!
Thanks so much, Mariel. I am so glad to meet you here and I hope you will visit my site again. I usually post something every M, W, and F. Have a blessed week in His love.💝
Pam – Some of the most beautiful words. I love you. God always amazes me in how he shows up to say those words in so many different ways. Congratulation on so many years of marriage. Glad you shared with us at Grace & Truth Link-Up. Maree
Thanks, Maree💝 He is amazing indeed!
Encouraging & touching post Pam! I think sharing from the heart had the greatest impact ♥
We are so very blessed in our relationship with God. And you’re truly blessed in your marriage to hear this affirming words each day.
So many do not hear that from their spouse very often, if at all.
We are indeed blessed that the One who loves us best continues to reach out to us and “speak” to us over and over again in multiple ways if we are looking an listening.💝 You are right about the blessing of my marriage…I do not take it for granted. Age teaches us what is most important unless you refuse to listen.
Have a blessed day!
Amen! Bless you Pam! 😀
Thank you for sharing this very moving piece – and the reminder to know the truly transforming power of God’s love for us every day!
Thanks so much, Sharon. I think we all need that reminder♥️
Pam, loved your piece today. What stood out to me, “Information is good, but relationship is transformative.” Heaven knows I needed to be transformed – and still do!
Thanks so much, Jerralea.♥️. We all need the continuing transformation that can only come through our ongoing relationship with our Creator, Savior, Lover, Grace and Mercy Giver, Healer and Comforter.🌺
Growing up I knew I was loved but the words didn’t flow easily from lips. I don’t think I say it enough – but I do tell my heavenly Father all the time!!! Great post.
I think my growing up years resulted in something good happening in me – I never cease to tell people I love them or affirm them. I heard a long time ago that it’s important because we never know when or if it will be the last time we see that person. I don’t want regrets where that opportunity slips away.
Thanks for your affirmation ♥️
Pam, this is so sweet. I love the picture of the two of you too. Great truth here: Information is good, but relationship is transformative.
Thanks, Debbie💕 That’s one of our favorite pics of us as well😊
So many great quotable quotes in this beautiful piece. Thank you for the reminder.
You are such a good writer. I look forward to reading your thoughts each week. Please don’t stop sharing!
Thank you for your kind encouragement, Teresa! That means a lot to me♥️
That was beautiful 🦋
Thanks so much💕