In the 1940’s and early 1950’s, the American comedy duo, Abbott and Costello, were known for their patter comedy routine “Who’s on First?” It’s one of the best-known comedy routines of all time set in the context of a baseball game. Though this duo has passed from the scene, many of you may have heard it. If not, be sure to look online for a chance to see it.
In the sketch Abbott and Costello are going to New York City where Abbott is supposed to have a new job as the coach for the Yankees. Costello wants to know who the players are and the comedic lines begin when he asks Abbott, “Who’s on first?” (I can’t do justice to telling you the rest so check it out for yourself if you wish and enjoy the clean humor of a bygone era.)
The question of “who’s on first” goes far beyond a comedic routine about a baseball team, however. It points to a question of priorities that can be about persons in our lives. That sounds straightforward enough and most of us can give the “right answer” of who that is supposed to be, but whether our behaviors and choices reflect that might tell a different story. Intentionality is needed to have behaviors and choices line up with the statements.
As I was reflecting on that over the last few weeks, I started to do some personal evaluation.
Of all my earthly relationships, my husband of 54 years certainly comes first, but I wondered how I demonstrate that specifically. I think I do, but it occurred to me that I wanted to be more deliberate in showing it.
I put together a very special Christmas gift box that I hope will remind my dear man of what I tell him in words. It was what I call a “Box of Dates.” Inside the box was a letter describing my goal and intent and two small envelopes with a note inside each. One envelope was marked December 2018 and the other January 2019. The letter of instruction said that he was to open the one for December 2018 first and in it he would find a date I had planned and paid for and that it must be used before December 31, 2018. Any time after January 1, 2019, he could open the second note and discover the next date that he could spend any time during the month of January. Then he was to place the box on the desk in the den and notes for February and March would be tucked inside.
I wanted the dates to give us new memories, time to chat, and to do some things we do not routinely do on a “date night.”
He has opened that first envelope and it involved going to a wonderful new Italian coffee shop and bakery he had never visited where he could choose to indulge in the great coffee and Italian fried chocolate cream-filled doughnuts or gelato. It was great fun, but whether this yearlong gift accomplishes what I hope will not be clear until we come to the end of the year
While I was reading in 1 Samuel the Lord brought that same question to mind as I observed David’s life. He was “a man after God’s own heart,” and yet the story shows that David (like any one of us) sometimes allowed the Lord to slip from first place in his life.
I don’t know about you, but that doesn’t ever work very well for me. Even above my husband, the Lord needs to be first…not just because the Word shows me that, but because when He is in that place everything in my life is ordered and aligned. That results in every aspect of my life (physical, emotional, mental, relational, and spiritual) going more smoothly. I also discover I invariably carry out and follow through on all I need or purpose to be and do to a much greater degree.
Doing that is not as easy as I wish. It seems anything and everything is arrayed to dissuade me whether it is sleepiness, electronic devices, appointments, or an endless list of options life or the enemy can throw my way.
Any one of us can be duped into thinking that even if we didn’t make Him “first” one day, spend time with Him “first” one day, that we are still going to be okay and regain his proper place. Certainly there is grace for that and life happens and throws all of us curve balls. It isn’t about legalism that I seek to keep straight “who’s on first,” but rather out of an awareness of the truth of a commentary note in my Bible for 1 Samuel 14 that reads as follows:
“When God does not occupy first place, he seldom remains long in second, but is quickly relegated to ever lower standing, until he is forgotten altogether.”
One of the key indicators of “who’s on first” is what time I invest in that relationship. Am I doing for Him or am I growing with Him in intimacy?
How about you?
Who’s on first?
19 thoughts on “Who’s on First?”
I always enjoy your post and especially enjoyed this one. Hope you are having a great week and thanks so much for sharing with us at Full Plate Thursday.
Thank you for this reminder to put Jesus first going into a new year… something I “know” but often forget to put into practice on the daily. And I LOVE your date box idea! Stopping by from #faithonfire
Sure thing, Laura! I need the reminder as well! The date night box has been fun so far. I will try to let everyone know how it works by later in the year. Have a blessed day!💕
Such good thoughts you have written here, especially the last about God quickly moving to even lower places in our lives.
I think if I tried to do a date night box, my husband might think it was me all getting to go places that I wanted to go….. so of course that would mean choosing ball games and races and things he would like instead– which I don’t care for…. so I think we’ll stick to just eating out on occasion!
Thanks, Liberty! My date night box includes things he might like, but also things I like. They focus on places to do things we both like, but have never been to together before. We enjoy having coffee together and my hubby loves treats so the December 2018 date was to a new Italian coffee shop and bakery he had never visited with excellent coffee and luscious Italian pastries. I hear you, but wanted to share a bit about how I looked at choices. I didn’t put anything in the dates that either of us would really not like at all.
Well there you have it— my husband and I enjoy eating out together and that’s about it of the together things!
Your “Date Box” is a wonderful gift idea! Thank you for this reminder, to work at making memories and making that important relationship priority and special.
I’m glad you shared this week at our Encouraging Hearts & Home Blog Hop!
Thank you! I am thinking others might try it as an idea as well. That would be fun, but that wasn’t the purpose of sharing it. So glad you stopped by and commented.😊
Yes, I agree He needs to be first in my life too, I don’t want to live any other way! Love the date box idea 😀
Blessings for 2019,
Hi Jennifer! The date box is proving to be fun for both of us and prodding me to be creative!! Blessings to you as well for the year ahead!💝
“Am I doing for Him? Or am I growing with Him?” Those are some thought-provoking questions! I want to be included in the latter!
Great insights! Happy New Year!!
Thanks so much, Rachel! Happy New Year to you as well!🎉
Thank you for the wonderful reminder, Pam. Of course, God must be first in our thoughts. I love your date idea, though! 🙂
You’re welcome! The date idea is proving to be a fun addition of creativity and spreads out ideas and costs over seasons. My husband is already intrigued.😊
Great reminder! So glad to be your neighbor at Destination Inspiration link up! Keeping Jesus as number one, what could be more important? Yet we constantly let othe people and things take precedence. Thank you for sharing this! We all need to be reminded of what truly matters!
Thanks, Cheryl! I think we all do needed to be reminded (me included) even though we can be quick to say, “I know” in response. If we pause after a reminder just for a few seconds and allow the Lord to show us how He can help us order our time, we are on the road to progress I think. Have a blessed weekend!💕
I enjoyed your post, thank you for inspiring us all to love more and keep Jesus above all. Blessings to you and yours!
Thank you! Great to hear from you again Mari-Anna! Hope your Christmas was a blessed time for you!😊