Earlier this week a dear friend of mine made a date to get together for coffee at our favorite coffee shop. Actually, we may have other favorite shops, but this one has become the one that we always choose. Part of it is the location between our two homes. Part of it is the comfy faux leather chairs in the corner that we try to snag. We love coffee, but the coffee is really the opening act because getting together to talk is really the main event for us.
We have talked about many things back in “our corner” from marriage to parenting, our latest book choices, our spiritual lives, the latest ministry challenges, our hopes and dreams, our uncertainties, and foundational beliefs.
We take several hours to catch up and sip our favorite drinks and even though we spend two hours together, the conversation never stalls or winds down and we talk all the way to our cars. The coffee always runs out before the conversation. The finale of the conversation focuses on when we will be able to meet again for coffee.
What is it that draws so many of us to meet at a coffee shop for coffee to connect?
I looked around our coffee shop this week and noted how many of the chairs were filled. There were the usual folks on laptops alone and seemingly hard at work, but there were so many spots where two people were doing the same thing as I was, enjoying the conversation and company of a friend. I have seen men connecting over a Bible study, college students meeting around a group project, and of course, girlfriends like us meeting together for the sheer joy of the time together.
Perhaps we choose the coffee shop because we have bought into the ads for Starbucks, Peets, Caribou or other companies. Perhaps we simply love coffee. Perhaps it is because the coffee shop is an oasis from everything else in our day. Perhaps holding a cup in our hand provides some comfort or reassurance as we sometimes share the deepest parts of our heart. Perhaps it provides the context for the real reason, that we enjoy connecting with one another in a relaxed environment and since we do so by appointment we actually set aside time to nourish relationship in the midst of our busy lives. We commit to it even if we need to keep circling the building for a parking spot or need to wait for two chairs to open up.
Getting together for coffee is actually code for, “I want to spend time with you” or “I want to share something with you”. The commitment and the appointment certainly also says something we also need to hear – “You matter to me and I value you”. It adds to a sense of community. That is key to our emotional, mental, relational, and spiritual selves.
Whatever way we may choose to connect or experience community with one another, the vital key is to make time to do it and let the mysterious process of nourishing our souls happen.
Jesus was the expert on this.
As we read in the gospels we see the teaching to crowds, the healing of all sorts of maladies, the time alone with His Father, but do we also look at those connection times. They are tucked in before ministry and after time with the Father in Luke 6. They happen with his disciples, with his friends, Mary, Martha, and Lazarus as well as others.
Would Jesus hang out at our favorite coffee shop sipping an espresso or latte if He walked the earth now?
What a wondrous time that would be!
But maybe we can still experience a small taste of that if we find a favorite spot, get our favorite coffee drink, and spend one-on-one time sharing ourselves with Him, catching up, finding out what is on His mind and not simply handing Him our prayer requests.
9 thoughts on “Let’s Do Coffee Together”
awww, coffee with a friend at our favorite coffee shop is one of my very favorite things in life – thank you for bringing us along and for the reminders and lesson in what’s important!
The coffee shop is definitely an oasis, and I absolutely love sharing this with a friend because it means nothing is more important, lingering is expected, and sharing from the heart flows easily. It is a perfect recipe for friendship. I just loved this post, Pam!
You remind me that I need to make a coffee date with one of my neighbors. Even though we’re only two houses away from each other, we once met at a coffee shop anyway and that such a lovely conversation catching up with each other. 🙂
I hear you! It’s one of those things that I can lose track of with some folks. Somehow a coffee shop often results in fewer distractions than in one of our homes when I am with a friend. Can’t explain it…just seems that way.
You are so right about the coffee chat. I met 2 friends yesterday morning for a coffee chat at Panera’s but the place is not important only the company. Friends are so important and as a mother of 2 grown children I finally have time to rekindle friendships. I home-schooled my children and worked my slipcover, etc business at the same time, so I had no time for anything else. I got lost in it all and now I am finding myself again. Thanks a million for sharing I needed that! Happy Weekend, Kippi
What a sweet story of your own experience yesterday! Love that! So glad you stopped by and shared this! Have a wonderful weekend filled with lots of evidences of the Lord’s love and care for you, Kippi!💕
When I was growing up, this is what neighbors did in each other’s homes. Now it’s rare where I live to even know one’s nextdoor neighbors — let alone be in their homes. Now we make lunch dates or walking dates if we want to spend time with friends. But I agree that this kind of relaxed time is important in building and nurturing friendships.
Absolutely agree, Barbara! We really don’t invited people into our homes as we once did. When we were younger and our children were small, we typically invited another couple to our home for dinner and their children came as well. After we all enjoyed dinner together, all the children played together while the adults enjoyed coffee and conversation after we cleared the dishes and put away any leftover food. I rarely hear of that happening now. It was such a sweet time and it helped our children learn how to participate in conversation with adults as well. 😊
Meeting a friend for coffee tomorrow morning. Time well spent. 🙂