Intention and Intentionality


Life gets crazy and busy. We get tired and frustrated, disappointed and upended. In the midst of all that and more, we intend to do and be so many things…often very good things…but that does not always occur. Life is like that. Things happen that we do not intend.

We hear that when Galadriel speaks a prologue in The Lord of the Rings about the famous ring of power that had upended so many and turned the world back into darkness. She tells the audience:

 “But then something happened that the Ring did not intend. It was picked up by the most unlikely creature imaginable. A Hobbit, Bilbo Baggins, of the Shire. For the time will soon come when Hobbits will shape the fortunes of all…”


And so it is that things happen in life that we may not intend. How often any one of us ulyssessgrant1can be heard commenting, “But I didn’t intend to…”  (Fill in the blank). Many times it is true because we did not intend or plan to hurt, harm, or disappoint someone, but in our hurried thoughtlessness we did. Sometimes that comment is also a “too ready” excuse that slips from our mouths without much thought to what our words or actions were or the consequences of them.

The truth is that no matter what our intent may be or may have been, we judge others by their actions and they judge us by ours.

No matter what we may wish to be or say, our behaviors and our words come out of the store of what is inside of us.

Yes, we all have bad moments in time, but each of us also needs to consider how we move, live, and speak with a greater intentionality.


Intentionality reflects being deliberate and purposeful in how we represent reflectionourselves, our Lord, and any and all associated with us. It also takes into account that with the best of intentions, not everyone will hear what it is we have said as we meant it to be communicated.

Trey Gowdy speaks with a great deal of insight on this topic in Unified. Here is a part of his thoughts:

“When I speak, the intention behind my words is important; but what the other person hears is even more important. The quality of my communication is always determined by the listener. Unless the other person understands and receives what we mean to say, we haven’t communicated effectively. We must speak the same language, define our terms, pursue a common understanding, and be bold and honest enough to speak up with one another…It doesn’t have to be confrontational – in fact, it’s better if it’s not – but it must be candid, truthful, and to the point. And we must be willing to listen and seek to understand the other side’s perspective.”


Few of us can claim not to have been exposed to enough truth to be clear on this. It speaks to congruency and integrity, consistency and intentionality and a clear understanding that our words matter, our actions matter, and both have consequences in this life and the next.

Each of us has the opportunity to make a difference in standing in the gap and reducing the division where we are planted and placed.

As Tim Scott notes:

“The truth is, we all need someone to model the expectation and show us the way. Leadership is caught, not taught.”


quote-most-people-do-not-listen-with-the-intent-to-understand-they-listen-with-the-intent-stephen-covey-69-28-87Courses on leadership abound along with more leadership training seminars than anyone can imagine and yet in every sphere and area, it is harder and harder to find true and effective leadership.

It begins with “cleaning the slate inside.”  Listen to Tim Scott’s powerful truth on this subject:

“The honest truth is that the slate that most needs cleaning is the one inside each of us – the one that has all our preconceptions, prejudices, and poisonous attitudes written on it. The one where we have recorded our pain. When I look in the mirror and see someone who has been forgiven, it’s easier for me to clean the slate with others and start fresh.”


 Adding to that:

“If we want to establish friendships with people who are different from us, we simply cannot blame them for the things that others have said or done to us in the past. We cannot afford to blur the lines of responsibility. We must believe the best about each other and give each other the benefit of the doubt. In a sense, we are all living with the consequences of what others have done or not done, but let’s not attribute those things to one another. Let’s make an intentional decision to start fresh.”  Trey Gowdy

If we truly desire a better home, better neighborhood, better church, better workplace, or better nation, what is each of us demonstrating in our words and actions that show that intentionality?

I pray it will not be said of us what Ezekiel writes in Ezekiel 22:30 (NASB):

“I searched for a man among them who would build up the wall and stand in the gap before Me for the land, so that I would not destroy it; but I found no one.”


The wall was to keep out every ungodly thing raised up against what God had ordained and set forward.

Will each of us have the courage and intentionality to stand in the growing gap created by focusing on our differences, attributing things to one another without even knowing each other?

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10 thoughts on “Intention and Intentionality

  1. Hi Pam,
    I like your usage of the Lord of the Rings! There are some powerful messages in those movies!

    I love that Jesus stood in the gap for us all & that we who have Him as our Lord & Savior, can stand for Him in communicating His acceptance of all us sinners.

    It’s focusing on our sameness in being sinners saved by His grace, that brings intentionality of unity in our individual uniqueness. Rather than focusing on differences that create disunity & a paradigm of “otherness” which in turn brings suspicion of the Other. Don’t you agree…

    Remember you’re always welcome to drop by for a cuppa anytime!

    1. Hi Jennifer!

      We LOVE those movies and watch the trilogy along with the Hobbit trilogy once a year! Had a great time looking at these movies and the Narnia ones at a conference a few weeks ago at Grove City College. One workshop looked at the impact of WWI on Tolkien and Lewis and gave some fascinating information about how that influenced what they wrote for us.

      I LOVE that He stands in the gap for us as well!

      I have not stopped to visit this week because I have been reviewing final edits from my editor for the book I have worked on for the past 2 years, but I will stop by this weekend for sure❤️

  2. I appreciate your points on the importance of intentionality, Pam. Interestingly enough what stood out to me was the idea of being willing to stand in the gap. I believe God is calling me to do so and I’m grateful that He used your words to make that even more clear.
    Blessings to you,

    Marva | SunSparkleShine

    1. Thanks, Marva! I am always excited and humbled when something I write is used by the Lord to confirm something to someone who reads it. It encourages me that I am hearing from the Lord as I write each post. Blessings on your day!💕

  3. I appreciate this idea of intentionality, Pam. It speaks to thoughtfulness, focus, purpose. It also requires time and reflection which, too often, we don’t choose to indulge in.

    What might our days look like if we lived like this?


    1. Thanks, sweet friend! I think our days would look quite different and so would our families, neighborhoods, churches, workplaces, and nations. ❤️

  4. Well said! Convicting and inspirational at the same time. Your quotes are spot on. Keep writing! Barclay

    1. Thanks so much for your strong encouragement! This was not planned as a series, but as my thoughts kept building it grew into a two week series! Blessings on your day!💕

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