A Snare We Easily Accept

 

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They were enjoying their favorite lattes when her friend asked if she were going to the party next weekend. Unaware that a mutual friend had not invited both of them, a cool breeze quickly blew over the cordiality of their conversation leaving an awkward silence fall between them.

 

Those painful moments when we are not chosen or feel left out are impossible to avoid in this life. Even when there is no intent for harm, wounds come. It is often even harder to know how to respond when it happens by accident and you discover a relationship is not what you thought it had been.

 

No matter what we may say in the moment, our heart shrinks back a bit not unlike a turtle pulling back into its shell for protection when sensing danger. In that one moment in time, things change and shift, crumbling within us. An explanation may come, but it cannot cancel the moment.

 

Our mind can be fertile ground for all sorts of imaginings about the person who has wounded us as well as us.

 

We easily go off on rabbit trails reviewing the relationship, but with the filter of the wound coloring every memory and turning even the sweetest ones sour.

 

Whatever trust we have had shrinks a bit, but too often it doesn’t happen with just the one person who wounded us. We trust ourselves less as well and wander off the path wondering what we missed and why we missed it.

 

We tend to be more cautious in all our relationships, more tentative about what we say or share, hesitant about reaching out.

 

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Little by little our world gets smaller and we can be tempted to begin to close ourselves off from others except in the most superficial ways. At its worst, we can distance ourselves from the Lord as well at the time we most needed to run to Him.

 

A deadly war is going on and like any warrior in such a time, the smoke and din of battle result in our inability to see or hear, to know the direction we are to take or even how we can summon the strength to move.

 

In the last part of the incredible trilogy of The Lord of the Rings in the Return of the Kings, the movie version gives us a poignant picture that depicts our situation.

 

Frodo and Sam are near the end of their journey to Mt. Doom to destroy the ring of power that has blanketed the world in darkness. Both lay exhausted on the slopes of the mountain scarred and worn by their travels to this point.

 

Sam, the ever-faithful friend, seeks to encourage Frodo and to pull his mind and sight from the relentless and frightening image of the ring of fire and “the eye”.   He asks Frodo, “Do you remember the shire?”

 

I love this scene!

 

Sam is reminding Frodo of his history, his moorings, and the reality that he can no longer see.

 

That is why we so desperately need not to walk alone, especially when we walk in darkness and exhaustion. We need a friend that sticks closer than a brother (Proverbs 18:24) to remind us of what we have forgotten, to help us to see more clearly.

 

We must not fall prey to the snare that would tempt us to walk alone where we can be more easily seduced to the power of darkness.

 

In Ecclesiastes 4:9-11, we are admonished again about the dangers of traveling alone.

 

“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up.” ESV

 

We are admonished because the Lord knows well our weaknesses and has designed us for fellowship, to be with one another and for one another. We see it when Jesus sends His disciples out two-by-two. He knew the risks and dangers, the warfare they would face.

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So in these scenes on the slopes of Mt. Doom, Sam senses his dearest friend has lost sight of everything precious and good, right and true. He begins to tell Frodo about the shire and he asks if he remembers the taste of strawberries.

 

 

With what little strength he has left, Frodo tells Sam that he can’t recall the taste of food, the sound of water, or the feel of grass. He says he sees nothing but darkness, the ring of fire, and “the eye” whether his eyes are open or closed.

 

Sam, who is also exhausted, looks at Frodo with tears in his eyes and says, “Let’s be rid of it. I can’t carry it for you, but I can carry you.” Sam picks up Frodo and step-by-step carries him up the mountain.

 

“And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken”. Ec. 4:12

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11 thoughts on “A Snare We Easily Accept

  1. What a great reminder of the importance of friends and fellow travelers on this journey. I have always loved those verses from Ecclesiastes. They are so important to remember as this world around us seems to grow darker and darker.

    1. Friends who walk the journey with us are invaluable and blessed we are when we find them. So often during the pandemic the inability to meet in person has been keenly felt despite all the techie ways we can do so. Yes, the world is indeed getting darker and darker and that makes it more important that our light does not fade as we await His return.

    1. Thanks so much, Jennifer. I hope this finds you doing well. I always enjoy hearing from you and reading your site.

      In Him,
      Pam

  2. Feeling left out is a feeling with which I am very well acquainted. I always thought that would be better as an adult, but it really isn’t. Adulting can be time consuming and friends just don’t connect anymore. It probably doesn’t help that I’m introverted and don’t make friends easily. I’m very thankful that my husband is also my friend and that God chose me. I am always chosen thanks to God’s love for me.

    1. Isn’t it something when we discover so many of us experience that growing up and even in adulthood among sisters in the Lord. It reminds me always that the Lord alone does relationship perfectly and ALWAYS chose me when He had no reason to do so. How blessed we are to have husbands like that. I do too. Honestly, I was shocked when he chose me all those years ago on a college campus since I had dated little and felt unchosen then as well.

      Thanks so much for sharing, Ashley💝

  3. How many times in my younger days especially did I not get chosen, of feel so left out. To walk this life with the Lord is truly the only and best way. Even when I don’t get chosen today on this earth, I am always chosen by the One Who loves and care for and about me.

    1. Isn’t it curious to discover how many of us have such an experience and somehow think we are the only ones and never recognize the person we are with might have a similar experience.

      I so agree about walking with the Lord and trusting His constancy and choice of me (and you).

      Thanks, Linda💕

  4. “We must not fall prey to the snare that would tempt us to walk alone where we can be more easily seduced to the power of darkness.” Oh, this makes me long for the comfort of in-person friendships again soon! I miss my fellow journeymen along this way. 🙁 But it makes me all the more grateful for my husband who does pick me up when I fall. Thanks, Pam!

    1. I so agree about “in person” fellowship/friendship. I, too , feel grateful for a husband to travel with and help me stay the course. Will email you updates on family tomorrow ♥️

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