I wonder how you feel about age or aging. Whether I view it positively or negatively, it will still happen to all of us. As one who is farther along in the process, I can attest there are positives and negatives as well as potential positives and potential negatives. Certainly there are things we may be able to control, but many more that we cannot.
I think we are more aware than ever that our choices throughout our lifetime will have a big impact along with those genes of ours that more and more people are trying to learn about through DNA testing. The generation above me knew far less than that and I think they were often more likely to accept it and deal with it as a natural/normal thing over which they had little impact.
Most of us are getting the messages about this whether we color our hair or not, wear glasses or contacts, wear a hearing aid or turn up the volume, walk around the block or run a marathon. We get the message that God designed our bodies to move and no matter what our age, the more we move the better our bodies perform. We also get the message that what we put in our mouths has an impact not only on our waistline and hips, but also how much energy we have, how often we get sick, how well we sleep, and how alert and energized we may be.
When I look at all of that I am aware that I have some responsibility for what is happening to me at each decade. Sadly, many of us (too many) don’t think about that as much when we are in our twenties and thirties when we can be putting good stuff in our health bank for the future.
Another message we hear about what happens with age is the value of relational connections and a spiritual life that enriches us and adds to the longevity and positive aspect of aging.
I confess that despite being married for almost 52 years, with two married children, and six grandchildren who are no longer babies or toddlers, I definitely do not consider or feel “old”. (Yes, I do color my hair and wear contacts and am now retired.)
This week I discovered a new word that thoroughly delighted me while I was reading Mark Batterson’s book, In A Pit With A Lion On A Snowy Day. Some of you may have read this book that preceded his popular book, The Circle Maker.
Clearly the title about a lion on a snowy day is intriguing. If you are a Bible scholar or avid reader, you may know Batterson is referring to Benaniah who became one of David’s mighty men.
The word I discovered in this book after reaching the conclusion that I think I am one who is a “lion chaser” is neoteny. As a lover of words, learning a new one always fascinates me. This word derives from the Greek word, neos, which means “new, fresh, or youthful”. Batterson notes that neoteny “is the retention of youthful qualities by adults”.
Reading a little further I became aware he was not talking about hair color, walking speed, vision or hearing acuity. He included a quote from the book, Geeks and Geezers, by Warren Bennis and Robert Thomas that I confess I have never seen nor read, but it was so enlightening that I wanted to share it with you here.
“Neoteny is more than retaining a youthful appearance, although that is often part of it. Neoteny is the retention of those wonderful qualities we associate with youth: curiosity, playfulness, eagerness, fearlessness, warmth, energy. Unlike those defeated by time and age, our geezers have remained much like our geeks—open, willing to take risks, hungry for knowledge and experience, courageous, eager to see what the new day brings.”
If you are in your twenties or thirties, that may not excite you and cause you to yawn in boredom, but if you are in the decades beyond that I am guessing you might be smiling.
But there is even more good news!! Batterson reminds us that neoteny is at the heart of the kingdom of God and is, in fact, what God is all about.
“He called a little child to him, and placed the child among them. And he said: “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.” Matthew 18:2-3 NIV
If we read Batterson as well as this passage in Matthew, I think we need to consider how often we are encouraged to become more and more childlike in our faith and trust in the Lord.
Batterson puts it this way:
“Conversion kick-starts two sanctification processes: Christlikeness and childlikeness. Spiritual maturity is becoming more like Christ and more like a little child.”
I am not sure about you, but I want to be as filled with wonder at the Lord and all He has created and done as a child.
Neoteny—it’s a good word!
21 thoughts on “Age: A New Word to Define It”
Love that quote from Geeks and Geezers. Interesting, though, that they use the word geezer, which dictionary.com says means “an odd or eccentric man.” I guess I’d rather be considered odd or eccentric for acting young for my age than give in to the aging process and develop a grouchy, poor me, attitude. Surely a warm and kind attitude counts for something no matter our age?
I’ve printed that quote and am going to post it by the bathroom mirror to remind myself of the qualities I need to keep striving for. Thanks so much for sharing! Your friend from Faith ‘n Friends
Absolutely true! I agree!!
I’m also a lover of words, and this is a great one! Never heard of it before:) I’m still in awe of your married for 52 years and 2 married children and 6 grandchildren….what a blessing! Congratulations:)
Aw shucks!! Cannot really believe I am at that point, but so enjoying and feeling blessed in this season!
I’m a Mark Batterson fan! I haven’t read this book but I love what you gleaned from it. I will reflect on neoteny, especially when my joints remind me of my age! Happy Thanksgiving.
Love it, Mary!! Happy Thanksgiving to you as well!!
Ok, new word for my vocabulary! I’m in my 50s and sometimes I feel my age, sometimes though I feel older or younger…depends on how my body is behaving on any particular day. I’m in the process of letting my hair go naturally gray and I think I’m going to like it. I hope I never lose my hunger for knowledge and experience, as well as my eagerness to see what the new day brings. Thanks so much for sharing with us at our Blogging Grandmothers Link Party #3. We sure appreciate you partying with us!
So glad to connect with you and look forward to partying again!!
Neoteny, I like the sound of that. How the thought of aging affects me really depends on the day, how I’m feeling that day, how I’m looking that day and a host of other things. 🙂 But the word neoteny puts a positive spin on something that can be otherwise not so nice. Thanks for sharing with the Blogging Grandmothers.
When I discovered the word, it made me smile and I knew I needed to share it!! Blessings on your week!
I am now closer to 60 than 50. I stopped dyeing my hair and have let it turn gray naturally and I like it. Most days I don’t feel my age. I have noticed somethings take me longer to accomplish now. Key it to keep going and never slow down. There are to many thing I want to do and see.
Love it! I am a bit beyond you and agree with you on all this except I have not taken the step of the long process of not dying my hair.
I am almost 46. I try to embrace the wisdom I have gained by my years and they blessings they have brought rather than long for my lost youth. 🙂
Thanks for sharing this at the Funtastic Friday blog hop! I hope we’ll see you there again!
I will be back to the blog hop! Thanks for the warm welcome!
Hi Pam-love your perspective and new vocabulary word! As one who would rather walk & also think of myself as always younger than I sometimes feel, I agree. What we think is so important to how we act! I share this with the seniors I serve all the time! Thanks!
Thanks, Jill! Blessings on your weekend!!
Hi Pam! I had to smile at the ‘walk around the block vs. the marathon’. I am right there my friend! I used to be able to do much more exercise than I can do now, all a part of accepting where I am right now.
I think we’ve all met people who are old in age, but young in curiosity and desire to learn. My dad was like that. He read like crazy, and had a wide range of knowledge. Seemed like he could converse on almost any subject, even at the age of 91. That’s what I’d like to do…to dance in conversation and be interested in the world. What a great word, btw. Never heard of it before!
Have a great weekend,
Always makes my heart smile to hear from you!! I had never heard of the word either and LOVE it!! I think I fit the description and gives me a word for myself when people comment that I don’t sound/look/seem like my age. Have a great weekend too! I think we might be having our last beautiful day of weather today…in the upper 60’s…so my hubby is outdoors trying to get things done and maybe even some Christmas decor!! We head down in temps and weather this weekend, but what a lovely long fall we have had!!!
*adding neoteny to my word bank and my spirit*